The vaporbuddy sucks, and it gets exposed in the thread about portables. I know what you mean. MyExtreme is in my office and I don't always want to hit it in there. Instead of dragging my Extreme to the living room I prefer to hit the Genie out there occassionally. As for lighters, vapor tactician has a link in either this thread or the portables thread about butane that is helpful. I think any lighter will do. I've been using cheap bic lighters, but I think I will drop some coin for a butane torch lighter, if only for the uniform heat and consistency.