Parents That Vape

I always said I was not going to hide anything from my kids when I was a parent but actually having kids, has changed that for me.

Part of it is not wanting to expose them it, so they can't connect me to a vape when they see it down the road. Self preservation (wife, schools, law enforcement and court) I guess.

The rest is for their protection, because last year I brought my evic oil vape into the house and I stupidly set it down on the coffee table. My daughter grabbed it off the table and tried to copy me using it.

That was the last time she has seen anything vape related around me.

 

I'd rather set boundaries and discuss expectations than hide stuff, but everyone has their own thing. We try and take as much mystery out of life as possible so that there's no secrets. No secrets, no stigmas.

 

Yeah, completely agree here. I live my life ready to put all cards on the table at all times. I plan on teaching my kids the same. @Joel W. not to pick you out of a crowd but since you spoke up, would you have any problems finding out later on in life that you taught your kids to live multiple lives, i.e.- to hide their lifestyle from their partner or family member? You may think your saving yourself from future recourse when you may be instilling the ideology that it is ok to lie and hide parts of your life from those you care about most.

And don't get me wrong, I am just discussing things here, I am far from a perfect parent and I realize that there will be many obstacles and unexpected issues with my parenting while vaping as well as my parenting in general. For instance, when my oldest first started asking me about my usage I referred to it as medicating. I had a problem with this for two reasons. First, I am not always medicating, sometimes I am using recreational. Second, I don't want my kids explaining to people my usage and then it sound like I have cancer or something serious because I claim to be using marijuana for medical reasons. Now I simply tell them that I am vaping to eliminate some confusion.

 

One of the hardest things about this topic is how and when to be open with your kids. I like to pick guiding principles in those types of situations that can help me make decisions in places I haven't trod before. For me and this topic, my guides were honesty and the protection of innocence.

I want to be open and honest, and model and foster that behavior in my kids. As I have been open about mj with my kids, I expect them to be open with me about their issues. The best way to foster honesty in kids is to be honest with them.

Balancing honesty with the protection of innocence is where it gets tricky. Kids are exposed to so much at such a young age regarding sex, drugs, etc. that I don't want to rush the topics to them. I want them to remain innocent for as long as possible, and I don't want to be the one spoiling that innocence. I chose to open up to them either when they asked about it or when I could tell the world was about to introduce them to it.

 

This almost seems poetic but exactly what I wish I typed earlier.

 

Bar's are legal?
CANNABIS is safer than coffee?

My son who is a professional trainer does not like cannabis. (however cool with me)
The other OLDER son total health nut does CANNABIS because his hot girl friend medicates.
My sweet 19 year old daughter has a vaporizer I bought her however doesn't use it?

My Hot Wife likes fine wine however CANNABIS she never par took!

I on the other hand love CANNABIS and find it safe and healthier than most things.

Reverse generalization gap I coin it.
Could be wrong but so what!

When I was young 6 fat joints a day was normal. (my kids are light weights)
Today vaporizing is more CIVILIZED!

 

My kid is in college now so I am pretty much past all that. I kept my cannabis use secret from him while he was growing up. I explained it all to him in his last year in high school. I was unhappy about that but once the kid hits school, he would have to carry around an awful secret which could get his dad put in jail, cause me to lose custody of him, or cause job loss or whatever. And if something went wrong he might blame himself. I did not like keeping secrets from my kid but it seemed better than the alternative: making him carry around this big awful dangerous secret.

 

You also have to take into consideration whether you live in a legal state.

If you live in a non-legal state with strong laws the next question should be 'How old/mature is the child'. I recently came out of the MJ closet. There's a reason I didn't come out of the MJ closet decades ago when my children were under 10 and I lived 1 block from the elementary school. While I pride myself on being blunt and honest there was no way I would endanger my family or put myself in a position to lose my kids.

 

I have stayed out of local politics and running for Union position because of the Green Shadow that would have been cast upon me.
I somewhat regret it but sure saved me a much more explanative life.
I have always been a loud mouth so turning it down a notch for security reasons wasn't a bad thing.

 

@nosmoking . Both my kids are under 3 so there will be a time and place when they are older of course.

For now though, they don't need to see it, at least not from me.

Edit @ataxian ,. I agree, it's a double standard with mj,. Most of my wife's family is religious and it's frowned upon/unacceptable at most work locations.

Being an mmj grower makes it even harder and tends to make family visits very awkward. Lol

 

The only reason behind burning a fake joint and a scented candle I can think of is to get kids to narc on people.

I am so glad DARE is gone now. At least I think it is. Parents should educate their children on drugs/alcohol/tobacco/sex and do a much better job at it. But the parent has to initiate the conversations, and be truthful too.

Also the problem (at least at the time) with DARE was that they lied about cannabis, which led me to believe they were lying about other stuff too. I did do my own research but it didn't stop me, I was too curious. Even with all the research I did I still messed stuff up. My experimentation days have been over for over 15 years now, aside from that pice/JH-018 stuff in 2008 or 2009.

 

I remember vividly all of the scary details of weed. What's funny, is that MOST of what they said (which they conveniently lumped together with meth and cocaine) had to deal almost exclusively with psychedelics like shrooms and lsd, which they didn't even really discuss. It was mentioned FAR less, but they used all the details and scare tactics regarding them instead of THC.

 

I feel bad for your predicament!
You mean it's OK to take drugs?
Not OK to have CANNABIS?
Sounds like fiction!`

 

I am not a parent but I do have a young niece & nephew & I never hid anything from them when they would visit. That all changed when my niece was 4 & ran straight up to my bubbler on the coffee table & started hitting it (it was not connected to a vape). She then smiled at me & said "I'm just like Uncle" & my heart broke in two as she was imitating what she has seen me do. Now I move my paraphernalia to my kitchen when they come over so they don't see it. That is not out of shame as I would feel the same if I saw her mimicking drinking alcohol but I have a responsibility to behave appropriately around children. Also that is what the Air is for .

On the flip side my old man has asked if he can have a vape with me & I am thinking two or three puffs of an Air stem on green should be adequate for a person who has not used cannabis in 45 years?

 

wispy vapor for your old man? ... a little harsh don't you think? as a fellow old man i suggest you show him what a vaporizer can do ... life is too short (actually, too quick) to play games, imho.

 

I think 2-3 draws of 10 seconds is plenty for someone who hasn't smoked anything for that long. It takes awhile to get used to being elevated. You want him to have a good experience, not get so high he goes incommunicado on you. ;-)

 

First time (and after I went dry for a month) I always get really sick.

 

I just want him to have something easy & non threatening to have a puff on & the Air produces some pretty rich vapour I find. Otherwise I can use the UD but that provides him more steps to engage in rather than "just take a long slow draw on this slugger".

Bingo. I want him to enjoy it & relax not be a drooling mess with the head pounding I so long for .

 

@Stevenski - Set the stage for a good performance. His favorite music, his favorite snacks and his favorite non-alcoholic drink. Happy on top of happy. When my mom had her first shot at MJ she said she didn't feel anything, didn't see what the big deal was about but was really hungry all of a sudden. The look on her face when she tasted that chocolate chip cookie was brilliant.

 

I have vaped with both my parents. And I know that doesn't sound impressive- until you hear that I am 45 years old. Dad's 72 and still likes a good pot buzz every so often.

 

Parenting is difficult. If you are reading this thread, it seems you are a concerned and responsible parent and want what is best for your kids. Parenting is also complex. What works for you and your family, may not work for mine. So many variables; legal or non legal state, age and maturity of children, medical and or recreational, family or spouse values, child already experimenting, need to tell. All things that greatly affect how you deal with it.

My experience with kids is that they have a unbelievable capacity for understanding and accepting new ideas and situations, 100 times more than most adults. Let your instincts and love guide the direction that you chose.

 

I really can't decide if I hide my vaping habits (non légal) or treat it like alcohol (everybody drinks in front of my child) ?It
Would
Be
More simple if it was légal....

 

Parents that dont vape

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TBH I was trying to spot the non fat cunt adult @Melting Pot . The ratio just makes them look tubbier but they are still FC's.

 

I got my mom into vaporizing and that got her a simple whip vape. She's fun to sit and chit chat with while passing the whip. Lots of giggles...reminds me of being a kid again haha I just realized that's not what this thread is about. Grown ups vaping with their parents. lol