This is really interesting to me, I also came across this board;
I've been getting interested in induction heater design too

. After looking into it, the common circuit used on the cheap blue "12V ZVS" etc modules is kind of crazy, right? It makes sense that the MOSFETs get killed commonly, given that there is no gate driver. And if the work coil and capacitors fail to start oscillating, both transistors can get turned on at the same time, and you basically get a dead short.

I thought ElectroBoom explained these issues pretty well in this video and article.
https://www.electroboom.com/?p=1198
It does seem like some external control is needed to make the induction heaters safer. I assume it is what is in the ispire wand or other commercial products. This video shows a digitally controlled induction heater, using a really simple delay in a microcontroller.
That way, out of control switching can be controlled. But you could use the same thing to control the drive frequency to whatever you want.
I'm thinking about doing a soft start by running it at a high frequency when powered on, the amperage should stay low and when the metal is inserted we could gradually increase power by dropping the frequency closer to the resonant frequency.
This is a cool idea for detecting the metal. You mean a frequency just slightly off of the natural frequency of the empty coil, and capacitor(s)? When the metal is inserted, the natural frequency should drop. So maybe you would actually want the driven frequency to be below the natural frequency, and then the power would increase as the metal is inserted, which might be easier to detect. Maybe once it reaches a certain point, you can go back to "locking on" to the oscillation, like the regular ZVS.
There are some articles on better ways to do induction heating if you search "parallel resonant inverter" on google. A little bit over my head, I'm not an EE. There are some interesting strategies for avoiding crazy power spikes, varying the power level, etc. But using a real gate driver, adding some protection to keep the whole thing from shorting out, maybe some thermal protection, could be a lot safer for sure. Let us know if you build anything cool!