I talked to FF and they looked at my lid and we agreed that it's simply a matter of seating the lid correctly and carefully before using, the gap in the gasket is of no concern and after realllllly thinking about it, it is fine in my opinion, the lids that have issues must have weaker magnets or something? It might be the magnets in the lids? My magnets are HELLA strong, they pull razor blades from 4 centimeters away, so when I seat the lid correctly, I get proper suction/airflow every time and excellent vapor. I just needed to pay attention when putting the lid on.
Since I have been adjusting how I put the lid on and paying attention to the lid, I notice the correct draw resistance every time and get very excited cuz here comes the vapor!!!!
These are my own experiences and not intended to be taken as troubleshooting advice, I'm fully satisfied that it was my user error in my opinion.