Reply from another noob - and by the way, they like us to cluster messages together in one post where possible, and use edit to add more, unless someone else has got in between. No biggie, the mods will explain better than I!
I've got my old VVAP handheld 3-flame butane torch. It was a cheap n' cheerful thing I got when I tried a DV-M last year. It does fine, I have actually managed to heat it up on a tiny one-flame jobbie, it just took longer.
What I am finding though, is there's a lot of difference as to where you direct that flame, and also how long it takes to heat up (though less so than other more convection heavy vapes), so precision on the flame can make a difference, and I'm leaning rapidly towards getting a hated Ispire Wand to use (until MH bring out their IH at some future date). With no other criteria, I'd suggest get something with 2 or 3 flames, that's not too pricey, use it to get a feel for both 'pest and lighter, then decide what will work best as a heat source.