I agree you shouldn’t look too much at what the rest of us use and see what works for you. There are a lot of medical users here, a lot of heavy users of all kinds, and a fair amount of serious micro-dosers too.
It is important to know though, the more you use and the more often you use it the higher your tolerance can get.
For some people it gets hard to manage because they use a lot every day and end up having to take breaks to get good effects from even large doses.
For others (like me) keeping my tolerance high enough that I can meet my medical needs without the other effects being more intense than I want can be difficult.
From the first time I ever tried cannabis I went at it a bit hard because that’s what I saw in reviews. It worked, but the first day I got the room spinning and had to sleep. I kept that up for years having just one session (~6 long slow draws of a heavy Indica and probably a 10-15mg edible) once a day before bed and that would knock me out and leave me feeling a lot better the next day. Since I took over a month off of doing that I lost my tolerance and I struggle more with getting the same level of benefits from smaller and more frequent sessions.
For the effects you’re looking for, I’d personally try to keep the doses low and not too frequent so you don’t build a lot of tolerance. You may be surprised at how little you can still feel, and the more you have the more likely it will be to (temporarily) negatively affect your mental abilities. If you feel like it’s too much though, you can just wait longer or use less next time.
For those kinds of effects I would also recommend trying CBD and/or other cannabinoids if they’re available where you are. You might look for flower that has both THC and CBD in it or just mix some that’s high in each one. They don’t work the same for everyone, but for me CBD alone can help quite a bit with anxiety and a mix can be great, but THC seems to do better for my physical issues (pain, muscle spasms, etc.)
I hope this thread helps you find what’s best for you, but after reading what works for other people I think you really just have to see what works best for you. Or if you’re happy with it right now, there’s no need to change!
If you’re getting what you want out of it by just having a little once a day, don’t feel like you have to use more. At that level of use your tolerance may never go up and experimenting with more is completely optional.