Sorry to hear that man, I have learned this type of lesson more than once. I lost all my vapes, bongs, oz's of concentrate, etc, back in 2004. That event cost me probably over $100K. Anyways, just a couple months ago I foolishly helped someone in need from my past with a loan, but turns out she was lying. Now I have to waste my time to get it back, have lawyer send letters, sue, threaten, or let it go.
Anyways, it will come back to you in one way or another, and it will come back to them.
Dude, you just reminded me of when I was 14 or 15 I moved my bong and stash out to the woods after mom found it, even though she said it was fine as long as I did it at home and got good grades! One of these assholes from my school who just hooked me up with the quarter of nugs saw me stash them and stole it. Later on some of them got arrested. Other people who robbed me wound up in a coma, car accidents, etc. I can't promise it's not just how it goes for those who wrong me, but I think you will recover.
And well, I hope your wife becomes more supportive! So much evidence out there.... Hey, at least if it comes to it with her, you can buy it over again and she won't think it's a 2nd time. Maybe it's worth having the talks and making a vape cave inside, or just locking your stuff tight... But I don't mean to overstep.
Good luck and Best wishes!