I haven't posted in a short while. Things here are not the same - they never will be again. My best friend of 45 years passed suddenly. It is still inconceivable to me - almost not real. Without Joe, I would not be where I am today. I'd probably be living in the street, or maybe not at all. My career I owe to Joe, and the house I've been able to maintain. Every ball game, concert, July 4th, New Years, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, home made meal, community & political activist activity, meaningful conversation, book I've read, music album enjoyed, personal emotional crisis, beach & bicycle & exercise & picnic & BBQ & Frisbee & football & &&&&&&&&... EVERYTHING was with my best and only true close friend and confidant, Joe. He was my lifeline, the center from which I now have now bearing, no compass, no real life. The house is empty, the neighborhood is empty, the days are a bottomless pit of stomach and heart ache. No hunger, no thirst, no desires, no motivation - it is an effort to breath. I took too much for granted. I received so much more than I gave. Never again will I have what I've lost. And it's not just me who has lost, there were many who lost Joe - their pain is also gut deep, soul deep. Joe worked hard all his life. Taught special education severely emotional disturbed and mentally challenged children for 30 years. He just retired last year with the most cheerful outlook for a long & leisurely and exciting second life. His passing is an incalculable loss. Joe was a Universe of godly proportion. What now?
I didn't realize what I had to the incredible extent I do now. I am lost. The roots of my existence for the greatest part of my life have been cut from my body, and I feel my leaves and branches and stems and trunk withering away, fast and irrevocably. Loneliness and despair are words that fall far too short.
Until they are gone, you really just don't know.
I expect I will experience this again & again when my beloved Baboo, Riker, Jupiter, and Radio pass, as many have passed before them. It never gets easier, only more difficult.