What does your significant other think about vaping?

[AhBeVapin]

Hey now,
@SSVUN~YAH & @Melting Pot
I don't know how to respond other than to offer you both my condolences.
Stay strong, stick to your principles, always be honest and forthright.

@scottg402 exact same situation (moderation) with Mrs ABV for the last 20yrs.
@GetLeft, I'm in the same boat when it comes to my kids, except at 11 & 13, I'm lucky they are still pretty naive.
ABV out

 

[Melting Pot]

IMO honesty is the best policy!!!
If you're lying and deceiving your relationship is doomed for failure.
A woman will think ,anyone will think if you lie and deceive about one thing ,you can lie and deceive about others.
Jmho..
I stopped lying about my MJ use when I was 15 years old.Definitely not going to lie as an adult to my wife about my use.

 

[MinnBobber]

SSVUN-YAH,

so sorry to hear this, especially when more people/states/countries are finally seeing the light on cannabis.
Any chance to get her to read a few articles/ view a few videos which show cannabis has gotten a bad rap, that it is a miracle medicine x 1000.

good luck

 

[lwien]

I'm way too selfish to have a significant other.

 

[SSVUN~YAH]

Thanks for all the well wishes, love this community so much! Just got finished packing her stuff and putting on the porch. More room in kitchen and bathroom than I know what to do with. She told me she is getting help today from a counselor at her work, which is good but wants to do it alone. I don't see how I could forgive her, if she will walk out on me now and can crush my heart, why try again? Worst part is she took our bunny, blue mini rex, well to be fair she did pay for him, but I took care of him and help pay for his food and everything else. He has a little bell that he rings when he wants me to feed or water him. No bell this morning, that hit me hard.

 

[lwien]

Thanks for all the well wishes, love this community so much! Just got finished packing her stuff and putting on the porch. More room in kitchen and bathroom than I know what to do with. She told me she is getting help today from a counselor at her work, which is good but wants to do it alone. I don't see how I could forgive her, if she will walk out on me now and can crush my heart, why try again? Worst part is she took our bunny, blue mini rex, well to be fair she did pay for it, but I took care of him and help pay for his food and everything else. He has a little bell that he rings when he wants me to feed or water him. No bell this morning, that hit me hard.

Been there, SSVUN, as I'm sure most of us have. I know how much it can fucking hurt. Stay occupied man. Relationship withdrawals can truly be mind-bending.

 

[CarolKing]

@SSVUN~YAH I am so sorry that you are going through a difficult time right now. It sounds like she wasn't communicating with you about her feeling. There could be more to it than just the cannabis? She maybe is just blaming it on that? Women sometimes are complicated human beings and it's hard for men to understand at times what's going on with their feelings. I'm not sure how old you are but people change a lot from their early twenty to their later 20s.

It's really hard right now for you but it will get better. I hope you are taking care of yourself. You can't feel this right now but maybe it was for the best. Eventually you will find someone who is more compatible with your cannabis lifestyle. You seem like a truly awesome, caring person. You have a lot to give others, hang in there friend.

 

[lwien]

Women sometimes are complicated human beings and it's hard for men to understand at times what's going on with their feelings.

"Sometimes....."???

 

[Melting Pot]

That sucks bro!!!
I haven't really thought about missing my pets.WTFE

The kitchen & bathroom are good places for vapes,she probably wouldn't have liked that, well there you go order some more vapes put them all around the house.
Look at the positive.
Ran out and got u a bunny

Words to live by!!!

 

[CarolKing]

@Melting Pot i love your new motto - "Inhale the good shit exhale the bad shit" Really good words to live by.

 

[Reflections]

Big Hugs and so sorry to hear about your SO not tolerating your mmj usage @SSVUN~YAH and
@Melting Pot. Loved ones should care about you being healthy and happy, no matter what it takes
to get you there.

My Husband and I have been recreational users since we were teens, so there has never been a conflict
until he got emphysema and had to give up combustion. He then hated me smoking and couldnt do it inside the house. I got sick with IBS and got a medical card and also bought my first vaporizer. So now he has no problems with me vaping inside. He doesnt quite understand though, my VAS

 

[clukx]

She vapes too doesn't car about how many vapes I buy as long as we have the money

 

[His_Highness]

After an unreal day yesterday, I was left heartbroken. Still picking up the pieces of what happened. She couldn't handle my cannabis use anymore. Three years together a week ago and I thought for certain she would be the one. I told her, that her alcohol use and prescription diet pills are infinitely worse. She is going through anxiety issues with no plan and I told her to put down the two she was on and try cannabis and she exploded. She has never even tried it, and seems clueless about the ever changing opinions on cannabis. It came a a complete shock as a month before we laid out a plan to eventually get married, start a family, get a new house, etc. etc.. FML

Sorry to hear you're going through this. The possible end of a 3 year relationship is gonna hurt. Been there done that .... leaves quite a hole in your heart...and even when the relationship isn't the best it still leaves a void. It sounds like she has problems to work out of her own and may have subconsciously and incorrectly decided to lay some of the blame for her issues on the relationship and your MJ use. It's the easier way out mentally than taking it all on yourself. She may be running away only to find that the issues kept pace and followed her even without you. It's not impossible that if she gets the help she needs from a neutral 3rd party she may wake up and realize she sacrificed a good relationship due to her own weaknesses.... but I would hope, if you have to, that you don't build a life around that possibility. What I know of you through this site tells me you are a good person and that good things await no matter how this works out.

 

[Philreal187]

@SSVUN~YAH Stay strong brother.
@Melting Pot You got ur mind right I also like the new motto.

I spent the last 10 years partaking in thy herb this is no secret to the people I kno. When I meet my girl I told her about my vaping. She told me she has tried smoking with an ex boyfriend but didn't like it. I never really used infront of her because it wasn't even on my mind it was her that I was happy just being with. Time goes by she hits my pnp a few times and was STONED haha but she was able to enjoy it since I made her feel comfortable. So we would vape and watch movies, vape and eat. Now she ask me to vape with her more than I would have ever expected!! Last night we had a discussion on what vape would be good for her. Between my pnp, vapman, hammer, and under dog. We come to the conclusion a dog would be best since she likes its aroma cup too. Looks like I got a gift coming soon for her that even I can enjoy haha. She has definitely questions why I have 4 vapes (with one in the mail) but each one is so different that she now overstands.

I also enjoyed all the stories thanks to everyone that shared.

 

[zor]

Like the others, I feel for @SSVUN~YAH and @Melting Pot

My past girlfriends have openly expressed disgust towards weed, in part due to stereotypes, in part because it affects them in ways they don't like. My current gf had a major, life changing panic attack from it many years ago and it's simply not for her. She was worried that, with my usage, she'd be isolated and abandoned while I explore my drugaddled mindspace, but I've been able to prove that to be a false fear. Little steps with lots of discussion and open communication helped, letting her know if was high when she called me, letting her know that I wanted to vape a little before sitting down and watching a show, and then later exploring the medical MJ options.

She has relatives and friends who now are medical users, and she has seen how effective it is to curb my social anxiety, insomnia, mood swings, and grief-related depression while I still can function and exercise, debate, travel, and use infinite commas in my sentence structure with her. She's aware of my propensity to abuse weed as well, sometimes I just don't want to feel anything and need my own mindspace, and we've agreed that I will do that on my own time.

I wish I had some advice or a vape hit to share with you guys n gals

 

[Mr. Gweilo 420]

@SSVUN~YAH I'm sorry man. I've been there and it hurts. Hang in there brother

 

[smokum]

Doesn't matter if it's the first, second, next one, or the next after that..... IT always HURTS ! But the funny thing is (in the end), it ALWAYS gets better....

I know for myself, after quite a few relationships along with three major ones, that even after it happens and I get to that stage where you attempt to 'toughin up' by saying 'never again' or 'next time I'm not gonna get this hurt'..... IT always HURTS... AGAIN ! It wasn't until my current relationship (24 years and going strong ), that I forced myself 'to just be myself from the start'... no false portrayals, no pretending to be something nor someone that I'm not, but rather... 'what you see is what you get' & 'what I say is the truth, not what I think you want to hear'. So with this new outlook I've managed to finally meet someone who I feel comfortable and compatible with, accepting of MY life choices, mannerisms, personality, inadequacies, and feelings, etc, just as much as I am accepting of theirs.

Never use insulting nor hurtful words in an argument (even in response to one), take pause if discussion gets heated, NEVER go to bed angry, and always end the day with an "I Love You"

From what I've found, it's soooo much easier to 'just be yourself' than go through life playing an part.


EDIT:

Whoops ! Vaping and Lounge posting causes mind drift and forgetting the topic

My S/O was never a partaker beyond her willingness 'to try it' as she just never got into it, and rather an occasional glass of wine for her wants/needs. Getting into Vaping was a gawdsend for me with the side benefit that the pretty much odorless vapor doesn't impose itself on her where she'd express later her displeasure of the smell from weed joints or bowls. I simply went elsewhere in the house to do so out of mutual respect. At least now we can remain together as a couple while I vape (even right beside her) without any displeasure. (Dabbing is whole other ball of wax <-- pun intended )

She of course voices concern when I occasionally get carried away with usage, but it's just that she loves me and for which I acknowledge her concern, discussion appeases her view, and it's dropped until the next mention while giving me the time to check myself. But she would never use it as an ultimatum within our relationship.

She has her 'shit' (that I may not always agree with), and I have mine.... and go figure... It's working

 

[Rush520]

Firstly, wanna wish the best to SSVUN and MeltingPot during their current hardships.

My current gf is pretty anti cannabis. We're only 22, met freshman year
Of college, eventually got around to getting together senior year lol this means she knew about my use of cannabis, in addition to the excessive alcohol use we BOTH participated in together and separately during school.

She "tried" hitting a blunt once with us but doesn't really know how to inhale and what not. Ate a brownie once IIRC but she's never really experienced the high I don't think. Yes we've only been together since October 2013 but once upon a time she said the words "just don't tell me when you are" and while she will deny ever saying it, she did and I've lived by that to this day....I wish I could be open about it, and that she'd be more open to it, but it is what it is.

We recently had a discussion and she said she understands the use as medicine but does not agree with recreational use to relieve stress and what not. She does not know much about the plant, pros nor cons. I don't think she really cares to know either. She doesn't drink to relieve stress but drinks (to get drunk) in social settings. She doesn't see the connection. I love her and we have already discussed our future, yes I know we're young. At some point she's going to have to accept the fact that cannabis will forever be a part of my life. There will be a time when I NEED it, and she'll need it to. If my kids ever need it, they will have it. If my dog needs it, he will get it.

Eventually society will realize the greatness of cannabis. Until then some of us have to hide it. It's an uncomfortable weight on my shoulders that I just wish I could relieve. Cannabis helps with that too lol damn this ones long and not even juicy but I'm hitting post anyway.

Vape on.

 

[Joel W.]

Mine hates it, but since I recently caught her having an affair at work, her opinion means pretty much diddly squat to me right now. Zero fucks given as I contemplate ordering yet another vape... We just went to a marrage counsler tonight for the first time and I am pretty sure now, that we/I can't fix this/her/me.

Vaping is the only thing keeping me sane, calm and helping me get some sleep so I am doubling down to keep me from hunting this home wrecking mother fucker down.

Many women have come and gone through the years, MMJ has always been there, always will be there, unless I vape* it all gone. Then I just need to find more. No worries..

 

[Rush520]

Mary will always be there or a drive away, and best of all she won't cheat on you. She won't yell at you and she won't even get mad at you. She just wants you to keep doin her.

 

[SSVUN~YAH]

Thanks again everyone, it's starting to get civil. Yet lots of going in circles and a lot of avoidance of critical issues on her end. Its not making sense to me at all though. I've cleaned up and redecorated got the aromatherapy bringing in fresh scents. Just can't seem to stop trying to do something but feel helpless. The old me would have been at the bar or who knows where. FC changes you if you embrace it, definetly don't feel as manly but emotions aren't for us to avoid or cover up, I believe they are there to explore. It's been a wild ride so far but with friends like you guys it's sure as hell a lot easier. Plus no hangovers or jail cells, bonus!

@Joel W. join the "kicked in the balls club", meet our reigning prez @Melting Pot he has the chair here! I like your attitude guys I need to sac up!

Edit - I know my manly term above is misguided. I understand what a man is, just trying to put a picture on how I used to feel.

 

[Melting Pot]

Remember that!!!!

As long as she didn't say this walking out the door you're good!!!

@SSVUN~YAH you keep the emotions flowing, don't hold that crap in that's how we explode. Lol

Imagine a life without bullshit & aggravation.
Enjoy a little bit of personal freedom...

Its like a release of pressure, kinda feels good...

 

[c76man]

My wife had some negative experiences in high school, so she does not partake in cannabis.

I vape in the garage when she is around. The basement when she isn't.

She thinks I order "too much pot shit", which I understand with the VAS and GAS sometimes. She rolls her eyes whenever I pull a vape out of my pocket when we're out. But I mostly keep it away from her, and she mostly just leaves it be.

@SSVUN~YAH I hope things looks up for you.

@Melting Pot sometimes people just have their minds made up.

 

[GetLeft]

I love this forum. I find myself cracking up so often.

Thanks for these pearls, guys:

@c76man "too much pot shit"
@Rush520 If my dog needs it, he will get it.

Edit: maybe TMPS should be added to the acronym list : )

 

[Rush520]

I was 100% serious regarding my dog by the way. He's still a pup though and I don't think the medicine has reached that point yet but it will soon.

To add to my original post, if my SO never comes around to cannabis, I would surely not vape around her. I plan on having a closed off room attached to my Jets/Devils/MMA man cave to escape to for various reasons, which is where my vape station will be. But I would love to be able to cuddle on be couch with her and pass a portable back and forth. Hopefully one day all these dreams of mine come true lol