I really don't get "messed up dabbing," maybe with my first few dabs a few years ago yes, and the first few of the day still yes... But once you get to a habit of consuming between 1/2 g and 1 1/2 gs of oil a day its almost all the same afterwards. I peak, and just live there. Taking a dab is more or less just keeping that level of relief throughout the day. Some days its only a couple dabs, when i wake up, getting home from work, and an hour before bed. Other days every half hour... I'm really not getting messed up dabbing thankfully. When I'm taking a larger dab i have to close my eyes sometimes because it does screw me up, but i don't do that anymore.
If i want to get messed up I get out the capsules or just eat a spoonful of butter straight. It takes quite a bit too... half a gram of reclaim is my standard every couple weekends. Dabs get me high of course, i still feel sort of light throughout the day, and i feel a little "rock" chillin vibrating in my neck and behind my eyes, but I avoid strains that really mess up my head. i get pain relief and some happiness but im not really sleepy or stoney. But I see nothing wrong with with someone using it with no medical needs at all. People build tolerances so instead of 3 js, a dab is much better. And i'd rather someone take 10 dabs than 10 shots, when you talk completely recreational.
Of course though you have a problem when you go around "zombie faced level stoned" all the time. Shits fucked there, unless you need it.