Could you/ would you give cannabis up for love?

[basement farmer]

Not in the "they'll leave you if you don't quit" but more like giving it up for someone you genuinely love in the truest sense because it doesn't fit into their lifestyle (reason why is moot)

The answer has to be either a simple yes or no. Explanations are optional.

 

[EveryDayAmnesiac]

Luckily, cannabis and my love life are one and the same, so I don't have to choose...

So... "No."

 

[lwien]

In this scenario, is cannabis being used to address medical issues or strictly used for recreation? HUGE difference in answering this question.

 

[Puffers]

Could I? Yes. Would I? No.

I feel that a truly loving relationship is both people putting the wants, needs, and desires of their significant other before their own. That said if removing cannabis from your lifestyle, makes BOTH of you a happier couple and you truly WANT to give it up. With out harboring resentment, anger, etc towards your SO, i see no reason not to....

In this scenario, is cannabis being used to address medical issues or strictly used for recreation? HUGE difference in answering this question.

Is it really a huge difference though? I mean different sure but huge I don't really think so. Why should someone permanently alter their lifestyle and avoid an activity that obviously is enjoyable and/or medically beneficial to them, purely for someone else. Now all different sorts of factors can come into every scenario their health, occupation, frequency of usage, etc but shouldnt it ultimately be a personal decision?

 

[basement farmer]

Luckily, cannabis and my love life are one and the same, so I don't have to choose...

So... "No."

Mine too bro, but hypothetically speaking could you/ would you?

How 'bout your ex for example? You still dig her don't you? Something in the love deparment along those lines.

(Fortunately?) for me, my ex's either hurt me or annoyed me to the point that the example doesn't apply.

In this scenario, is cannabis being used to address medical issues or strictly used for recreation? HUGE difference in answering this question.

Let's stick to rec use. Medical could be anything from chemo to insomnia. There are some 'medical' conditions that could easily be trumped by love.....it's too messy to discuss.

Could I? Yes. Would I? No.

I feel that a truly loving relationship is both people putting the wants, needs, and desires of their significant other before their own. That said if removing cannabis from your lifestyle, makes BOTH of you a happier couple and you truly WANT to give it up. With out harboring resentment, anger, etc towards your SO, i see no reason not to....

Yes! A straight answer!

 

[lwien]

Rec use?

The question then becomes, would I give up something that I just use recreationally if that recreation really caused discomfort to the one I love? Absolutely I would.

If I didn't say yes to this, than I would assume that my recreational use has morphed into an addiction and addictions can really fuck up ones priorities.

 

[syrupy]

Not in the "they'll leave you if you don't quit" but more like giving it up for someone you genuinely love in the truest sense because it doesn't fit into their lifestyle (reason why is moot)

The answer has to be either a simple yes or no. Explanations are optional.

You really need to define terms better before I could answer truthfully. You're talking about a theoretical person who loves you and doesn't accept your usage? Where are they coming from? Trying to help you with a problem? Trying to control you? There's obvious specifics you left out. Since that seems intentional, you've left me with only a guess, that there's something off with your usage and it's being reflected by this person. My second guess is you are just being too theoretical.

 

[KidFated.]

Rec use?

The question then becomes, would I give up something that I just use recreationally if that recreation really caused discomfort to the one I love? Absolutely I would.

If I didn't say yes to this, than I would assume that my recreational use has morphed into an addiction and addictions can really fuck up ones priorities.

Exactly this.

 

[basement farmer]

Rec use?

The question then becomes, would I give up something that I just use recreationally if that recreation really caused discomfort to the one I love? Absolutely I would.

If I didn't say yes to this, than I would assume that my recreational use has morphed into an addiction and addictions can really fuck up ones priorities.

I do follow your logic. I'll never be an addict since I'm going to die old and alone. Lucky me!

You really need to define terms better before I could answer truthfully. You're talking about a theoretical person who loves you and doesn't accept your usage? Where are they coming from? Trying to help you with a problem? Trying to control you? There's obvious specifics you left out. Since that seems intentional, you've left me with only a guess, that there's something off with your usage and it's being reflected by this person. My second guess is you are just being too theoretical.

Don't over think it. You have two to from choose from, pot or the love of your life. I can think of lot's legal situations where this could apply. Or maybe they are nothing more than perfect in every way, except that they just canot accept your chronic situation.

 

[EveryDayAmnesiac]

I hate to say it (well, not really), but I'd choose herb over ... yeah, pretty much anyone. To act differently would be lying to myself - therefore, the relationship would be "built on a lie," so to speak.

Herb is part of who I am - if he/she doesn't like it, if it doesn't "fit into their lifestyle," then I doubt I would either.

In the words of the great Comic Book Guy: "Don't try to change me, baby!"

Or, as Jim Lahey would say, "I am the liquor."

 

[syrupy]

Don't over think it. You have two to from choose from, pot or the love of your life. I can think of lot's legal situations where this could apply. Or maybe they are nothing more than perfect in every way, except that they just canot accept your chronic situation.

I'm trying not to, but there's still something poking me in the eye about the question. "perfect, except" sums it up. If they are perfect, they would accept everything about you. Unless the usage has unhealthy patterns. Then they are being perfect by inviting you to look closely at that. Either they are caught in a pattern of non-acceptance, or you are missing something in the usage.

In legal-type and non-medical situations, I'll go with @lwien that's a no-brainer give that shit up.

 

[Deadhead101]

Definitely love over herb. Giving up herb is difficult for the first couple weeks but after that it's nothing. There are even some benefits of not partaking including greater motivation, better breathing (less phlegm), less paranoia/over sensitivity to surroundings, increased energy, etc.

Don't get me wrong, I consider MJ to be one of my biggest passions/hobbies, but there are more valuable things in life than getting high. I don't care what anyone says, MJ is addictive, not that that's necessarily a bad thing...

 

[RUDE BOY]

Yes,... but only If I didn't need herb in order to have any desire for food and the ability to keep it down long enough to digest it once i do eat or to help me deal with pain in my hands and feet.

I could easily do without it if it came down to choosing between herb or being with the "Love of my Life".

If my herb use was only about the buzz and I HAD to choose a love buzz or a herb buzz a love buzz wins over the herb buzz, everytime Buzz down.


vs ...

 

[arf777]

NOOOOOO! My Dad did so in ~1966. Before that he had worked the fields in Lebanon, was the house dealer at the Blue Note where he sold to Trane, Miles, Sonny Rollins, among others. He gave up both canna and car racing. My mom promised him he could resume both when he got older. He is now 76 and she has not let him resume either. And I will not go to untreated pain for ANYONE. Fuck. That. Shit.

BUT- canna friendly is NO GUARANTEE of a good match. My demonic ex-wife is literally from Cannabis Land- Northern India, from the part where cannabis grows as a native weed and they roll bhang balls down the street. Hideous, vicious divorce anyway.

Definitely love over herb. Giving up herb is difficult for the first couple weeks but after that it's nothing. There are even some benefits of not partaking including greater motivation, better breathing (less phlegm), less paranoia/over sensitivity to surroundings, increased energy, etc.

Don't get me wrong, I consider MJ to be one of my biggest passions/hobbies, but there are more valuable things in life than getting high. I don't care what anyone says, MJ is addictive, not that that's necessarily a bad thing...

So says a healthy person. Wait til you need the canna for pain, GI issues, sleep regulation, etc.

 

[valleysquirrel]

house dealer at the Blue Note where he sold to Trane, Miles, Sonny Rollins, among others

Haha what?! So cool

 

[basement farmer]

Let's agree not to include medical use as a choice. It's too broad and yes, contentious.

 

[djonkoman]

no. I could give it up if there is a good reason, but love wouldn't be a good reason for me. in the moment I may be tempted, but I hope that if such a situation ever occurs I can still think rationally enough to stop myself from going down that path.

I generally would not want to change for love though, it doesn't just apply to cannabis. for example I wouldn't even be tempted if I would have to give up gardening for love, I can't imagine a love that can fill the gap that not gardening would leave behind. with cannabis I think love could fill the gap in the short term, but in the long term I would probably regret giving into my feelings/love so much.

 

[basement farmer]

no. I could give it up if there is a good reason, but love wouldn't be a good reason for me. in the moment I may be tempted, but I hope that if such a situation ever occurs I can still think rationally enough to stop myself from going down that path.

I generally would not want to change for love though, it doesn't just apply to cannabis. for example I wouldn't even be tempted if I would have to give up gardening for love, I can't imagine a love that can fill the gap that not gardening would leave behind. with cannabis I think love could fill the gap in the short term, but in the long term I would probably regret giving into my feelings/love so much.

Romantic love is transient, my love for Mary Jane is eternal.

 

[arf777]

Haha what?! So cool

And he still has his old reel-to-reel recordings from those shows. He's considering leaving them to the Smithsonian, though without an explanation as to why he was allowed to record there, obviously.

 

[basement farmer]

NOOOOOO! My Dad did so in ~1966. Before that he had worked the fields in Lebanon, was the house dealer at the Blue Note where he sold to Trane, Miles, Sonny Rollins, among others. He gave up both canna and car racing. My mom promised him he could resume both when he got older. He is now 76 and she has not let him resume either. And I will not go to untreated pain for ANYONE. Fuck. That. Shit.

BUT- canna friendly is NO GUARANTEE of a good match. My demonic ex-wife is literally from Cannabis Land- Northern India, from the part where cannabis grows as a native weed and they roll bhang balls down the street. Hideous, vicious divorce anyway.



So says a healthy person. Wait til you need the canna for pain, GI issues, sleep regulation, etc.

Think of the butterfly effect. If pops handn't set down the hash pipe things might not have gotten jiggy and you wouldn't now be here telling us this story.

The power of The Pussy is an amazing thing for sure, but I assume they're together because they still trully are in love after all these years?

Are you sure the old man didn't or doesn't have a re-used pharmacy bottle full of green, a bic and some rolling papers squirreled away somewhere?

 

[Snappo]

In order for me to answer the original question, I must shift the onus and turn it around: Will my lover leave me if I continue my lifestyle as I see fit? Are we destined to split up? I put the answer to that question in her court. If I did choose to quit, it would be because [I] choose it for myself, not because I would allow someone else to make that choice for me, particularly in the form of an ultimatum made explicitly or implied. So my answer is NO!

 

[t-dub]

The answer has to be no or you will wind up in couples therapy years later wondering "How did I/we get here?".

 

[arf777]

Think of the butterfly effect. If pops handn't set down the hash pipe things might not have gotten jiggy and you wouldn't now be here telling us this story.

The power of The Pussy is an amazing thing for sure, but I assume they're together because they still trully are in love after all these years?

Are you sure the old man didn't or doesn't have a re-used pharmacy bottle full of green, a bic and some rolling papers squirreled away somewhere?

Pops has come close to partying with me repeatedly, but gets all guilty and sheepish every time. Jewish guilt sucks. On the down side, my whole life he has drank way too much, and has said he would not could he but spark the hash. He doesn't have a stash - I have looked repeatedly over the years. I've found his hidden booze and porn but no hash or herb.

My 'rents do truly love each other, and I got to give my mom credit- she only cares because she can lose her license if they ever got busted (she's an LCSW). When she retires, he may finally go again. Especially as Maryland, where they live, has now decriminalized.

 

[basement farmer]

The answer has to be no or you will wind up in couples therapy years later wondering "How did I/we get here?".

FTW!!

Pops has come close to partying with me repeatedly, but gets all guilty and sheepish every time. Jewish guilt sucks. On the down side, my whole life he has drank way too much, and has said he would not could he but spark the hash. He doesn't have a stash - I have looked repeatedly over the years. I've found his hidden booze and porn but no hash or herb.

My 'rents do truly love each other, and I got to give my mom credit- she only cares because she can lose her license if they ever got busted (she's an LCSW). When she retires, he may finally go again. Especially as Maryland, where they live, has now decriminalized.

If it were my father I'd be taking the old man out to the garage under the guise of father-son bonding and tempt him with The Sweet Vapor of The Gods until he caved in. You'd be doing him a favor allowing him to live out the final years in relative happness. Of course eventually you'll be exchanging vaporizors on those gift giving holidays. Say they are tools...that's manly enough to be believable.

Your mother wouldn't have a clue and she'd think it was sweet.

 

[farscaper]

when my wife and I got married she had it in her mind that "someday you will chose to quit"

after years being together and numerous required "breaks" to aquire work her opinion now [she does not consume at all] is that I should never have to quit because I am a genuinely better person on weed.

I truely think the worst thing our cannabis community can do is segregate itself for the unapproving masses. let us not create the rift that allows the propagandists to rip our community to tatters.... we all want exactly the same thing so why do read all the time "medical users" denouncing "recreational users"?

to call somthing "recreational" just because a doctor didnt approve its use is ridiculous. medical.. recreational... its all marijuana. and I personally find it offensive having to justify my "recreational" use over someone who claims a medical use...

does that mean when I take ibuprofen without a doctor's note I use it recreationally? or perhaps the allergy medicine I buy OTC becuase its avaliable as such... is that a recreational use as well because I dont have a doctors note?

or is it a matter of self prescribed or doctor suggested?

let us not create the debate that will ultimately lead to people like me being incarcerated over "recreational use"

cause my family would be rather sad to hear that jonny law ex military gets pot for his PTSD yet I will go to jail cause im not ex law enforcment military exc.

if the cannabis community cant even get along on the med rec issue how can we expect to be taken seriously outside our community?

love someone for who they are right now. you might just find they already accept you and it is only you who are unsure of your feelings.

rant end.