@arf777 I just can't like your posts.... :cry:
I know this has to be one of the hardest things you've gone through.
Have you talked to your vet about this at all? He may have some solutions for you; even if short term. And has he discussed any type of medication for your dog?
You know... I...
Oh arf777... I am so very sorry.
First things first.. do you have a crate he can be in while you aren't home or need him contained? Or did you not crate train? That would be a safe and secure place for him.
The carpet will have to be torn out eventually. Maybe just bite the bullet and...