My father, may he rest in peace, didn't have a mean or hateful bone in his body and he never met a stranger.... but he used racist terms constantly when I was a kid back over 50 years ago. They were simply words that were part of his vocabulary and being hurtful wasn't his intention and we all knew it. For example....decades later .... my father thought my wife, who is Puerto Rican, was the most wonderful person in the entire world (I'm pretty sure he loved her more than me ;-) but would use the term "spic", in front of her, when talking about Spanish people. I would cringe and ask him not to use those terms and my wife would say...."Leave him alone...he isn't saying it to be mean or racist....it's just a word to him and he doesn't mean anything by it". Then she'd walk over and kiss him on the head if he was sitting or give him a big ol' hug and say "Don't worry about it Dad". Words that we were taught to use because they weren't "bad" words became bad over time. Think about some of the "they prefer to be called XYZ now" words from the past that are no longer acceptable. I think we can all come up with a word or two like that. Here's the thing though....when my father was in his 60's he did stop using those words because he somehow internalized that they could be hurtful. So even though he didn't ever use those words with bad intentions he still felt the need to evolve because he didn't want to hurt anyone. My father was never big on current events, the news, politics, etc. so if my father was sensitive enough to pick up on what is acceptable and what is hurtful and change up accordingly when his mind was failing....I'm not making excuses for anyone who can think past 2 plus 2. As far as lowering the bar for what she said/did....The right BAR got lowered alright and it was Rosanne BARR.