My heart goes out to you for having to endure such a deeply terrifying and difficult situation made all the worse coming from someone close to you, your child, your son. May you heal completely from that experience and thrive once again!! The FC forum is generally a warm and welcoming community. I found it when I was ill and bedridden. Reading posts of all sorts filled my days and helped me feel less isolated. Please never feel shy or reluctant about asking a question. I have answered the same questions dozens of times and will continue to do so. It only takes a few moments and I like to be able to help the newbies. Becoming oriented to the forum, the various threads and their organization can take a while and the various functions are not always apparent. Even with the search function, it can be difficult to find what you're looking for when you don't know what you don't know.