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Gender choices on FC. Something we can do to be more progressive?

Discussion in 'Community Discussion' started by syrupy, Aug 10, 2014.

  1. syrupy

    syrupy Authorized Buyer

    I noticed how under the profile, one can select gender. The options are too limited in my view. There's male and female, fine for John and Jane Doe. But the only other option is (unspecified). This means an FC user who identified other than M/F, and wants the community to know, can't do that. I realize there are too many terms that change every few years to keep up with a list. But could we get an old-fashioned "Other" category at least? Thanks.
    Last edited: Aug 10, 2014
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  2. lwien

    lwien Well-Known Member

    Arcadia, California
    Or.............(D) all of the above.

    A bit progressive, syrupy, but hey, isn't that part of the essence of FC?

    I think its a good suggestion. :tup:
  3. Deja Vu

    Deja Vu stay true to yourselves

    I endorse this! Transgenders are left out enough in society unfortunately, even on the internet! (Unless we are talking about porn sites.. In which case they are prevalent)
  4. tuk

    tuk Well-Known Member

    We could be really progressive and remove gender designations all together, after all what you have between your legs is not really relevant to the internet.

    Genitalia is soo last century.
  5. SamWin69

    SamWin69 New Member

    agreed we should have "other"_______________ like a specify option
  6. syrupy

    syrupy Authorized Buyer

    I used to say the same thing. But I think people who identify as heterosexual, being the majority, have more of a luxury to say it doesn't matter. When in the sexual orientation minority, it's a little more gray area, and the need to identify openly can be much more important than straight folks realize.
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  7. darkrom

    darkrom Great Scott!

    What is wrong with unspecified? It can mean male/female and anything in between. Or it can mean "fuck you none of your business".

    I think unspecified covers just about all options, unless you want them to list every variety of sex a human can call themselves, which seems to be growing by the day for some reason.
  8. FlyingLow

    FlyingLow Team NO SLEEP!

    I don't think you need to add more categories, and I also don't think "Unspecified" is appropriate.

    How about just removing the sexual orientation data all together?
    It might solve a lot of concerns, and people can put that info in their signature if they wish to display it.
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  9. syrupy

    syrupy Authorized Buyer

    I'd rather have it the way it is, than have everyone have to see S/W/M at the bottom of all my posts. :shrug:

    I think Unspecified can useful, for those that don't want to advertise it.
  10. CG420

    CG420 Fuck Who You Think I Am

    The Internet
    Should we change it so it would benefit the identity of one person? I think it's useless. If you feel the need to express your gender for the world to know, introduce yourself on here. Though it isn't neccessary to introduce yourself, I don't think much people here care about profile information so long as the information to all things cannabis-related is here for us to view as needed. We're already having identity crisis all over the world and the Internet isn't secure as we think. IMO whether I'm male or female or either, I'd rather tell you in person not online. Just pointless to point out something that should be personal. If these genders whichever feels 'unspecified' is wrong, it's to benefit those of us who want to keep that private. It is probably also termed like that by default and not by the decision of the FC staff. Might as well put Single, Married, and Divorced/Widow into the mix.:2c::peace:

    Edit: not meaning to bash on a suggestion. I love your posts @syrupy regardless.
  11. HillaryClinton

    HillaryClinton Future ruler of earth

    Can you guys add Reptilian, I am offended I can't label myself correctly.

    (But yeah it would be a neat change...)
  12. vtac

    vtac vapor junkie Staff Member

    FC R&D
    Good idea. I agree that "other" would make sense. Unfortunately the ability to do this is not yet in the software, but the suggestion has been made in the xenforo forums, so hopefully it is implemented. :)
  13. EverythingsHazy

    EverythingsHazy Well-Known Member

    It's not a sexual preference selection. It's a gender one. You only have 3 real options. Male/Female/Androgynous
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  14. DDave

    DDave Vape Wizard Accessory Maker

    Judge the Vaper by the Vapor
    While the original topic was seriously presented, I truly appreciate the funny, off-color responses as well! Thanks to all who've provided DDave with a laugh!

    :o - There are entire websites dedicated to hashing this out! But this comment was priceless!

    Now this could be a useful option for this, and many other aspects of the internet! :nod:

    Agreed. If anyone was "converted" to a diff sexual orientation by the use of MMJ, they can create a thread and announce/discuss.

    Especially if related to a particular Strain or Strain Family. DDave would then add these strains to his "Avoid at all costs" list! :uhoh:

    Not sure I see value in doing this. I think @Deja Vu stated it best once by saying any posting that identifies a difference can also cause conflict between two individuals or groups of different beliefs.

    And if pictures became involved.... Then this will be DDave...

    I LIKE IT! :tup:

    Andy who?

    LoL... Sorry, it's Friday! I find humor in everything on Fridays!

    Happy Friday all!
  15. dorkus_molorkus

    dorkus_molorkus Well-Known Member

    Say what? We can choose our gender on FC now?

    Im offended there isn’t a hermaphrodite option, because I have been called a prick & a cunt on many occasions.
    Often both in the same sentence.
    And I have lost count of the amount of times Ive been told to 'go fuck myself.'

    So to recap-
    We need an option for those who have the right bits & pieces & like them. (check)

    An option for those who have one set of bits & pieces. But identify with the other available set of bits & pieces & wished they had that set instead. Sometimes people will save up for a rebuild to have the correct set of bits & pieces installed.

    Then there is stu’s favourite group, those who cross dress in the accessories that are typically found in the opposite set of the 2 sets of bits and pieces because they havnt seen stu thru the hole in the toilet door enough times to pay for the rebuild yet.

    Personally, cross dressing is weird, I never saw the appeal in getting dressed up when you are angry.

    Some peeps don’t want to mix and match with the other set of bits & pieces.
    They want an option for same bits unions and feel there needs to be a section in the manual.

    Then there are those who deny their bits & pieces all together & endeavour to live off grid AKA- bitless wonders.
    Think blue ‘non gender orientated’ group.


    Then of course the original point I made, The Almighty Hemaphrodity button.

    Anyhoo, I really think this is a plot for @Stu to find some new cross dressing girlfriends who haven’t had the rebuild yet.

    Can we have a religious orientation button as well?

    cant see any down side to that.
    Unless it flares up the generation long conflict between The Jedi & trekkies?

    Perhaps just a human/ non- human button?
    It might keep my dog from continuing to impersonate me.

    I fail to see how advertising which set of bits you have, don’t have, are saving up for, wished you had or deny you have, brings anything to FC?
    However, I only say this because whichever set of bits you wish to interact with in the privacy of your own home is your business.

    But that’s just me, Im lucky I have both complete sets. (including the obesity induced man titties)
    Which is why I don’t leave the house much.
    Theres no reason to, I have everything I need right here.:tup:

    If anyone is offended..............

    you can kiss my bits & pieces.
  16. herbivore21

    herbivore21 Well-Known Member

    Holy fuck this thread is so full of conflations of sex, gender, crossdressing, transgender, intersex conditions and sexuality/sexual preference/sexual orientation than I could point a surgically constructed penis at!

    Quick recap:

    Sex: Describes genetics/biology - XY will be male, XX will be female, and various intersex (what my mate @dorkus_molorkus calls 'hermaphroditys') conditions also exist in the ever random natural world.

    Gender: This is about the social norms surrounding sex. These will vary from society to society (See for example the norm of heterosexual men holding hands with their male friends as they walk down the street in parts of Indonesia vs how this would be considered in terms of masculine norms in some Western traditions). Gender identity refers to how one identifies, expresses and describes themselves with regard to gender. There are as many possible gender expressions as their are people really. When you ask someone for their gender, you ask for their gender identity in fact.

    Transgender: This refers to a state where an individual identifies with the gender norms of the opposite sex, rather than their own. They may then choose to have surgery and dress accordingly to express this.

    Sexuality/Sexual preference: Who you like to have sex with. You might be heterosexual/pansexual/homosexual/bisexual/asexual or whatever else your proclivities lead you to. I would love to hear Dorkus' self description in this regard lol

    Transvestite/Cross-dresser: Something that people of all sexualities/gender identities/sexes do. This is simply the act of wearing the clothes traditionally associated with the opposite sex of the wearer in that place.

    I'm sure there's much more I should explain here, but that's most of what springs to mind.
  17. HillaryClinton

    HillaryClinton Future ruler of earth

    I like to dress up like Bill Clinton a run down the street with a giant joint screaming "Inhale for life, blow me ******s".
  18. dorkus_molorkus

    dorkus_molorkus Well-Known Member

    Im whats known as omni-sexual.

    Ill do anything,
    To anything.

    I find virtually anything sexually attractive. Ive met a sexy hairdryer, and I recently solved a math problem where the recurring remainder gave me delicious chills & erotic dreams for a week.

    Ive gone to say my grandmas house & have used the bathroom. While Im washing my hands I find grandmas toothbrush coming onto me. Before I know it, the toothbrush is giving me a rimjob & I have a new upload to my instagram account.

    BTW- and in case anyone thought I was a blow n go kind of guy, me & grandmas toothbrush dated for 6 months. We never told grandma, we knew she would never approve. Grandma was quite sick for a few months, then she died of a gastric infection. The toothbrush & I drifted apart after the funeral.

    I had a thing with a cucumber at the grocers for a few days, it was all fine while they were $6.99 a kg. Nothing like a classy bit of cucumber, but then the price dropped to $3.99 a kg & well it just seemed all so cheap & tawdry then.

    I called it off after that & put it back.

    I was introduced to another cute little Lebanese cucumber at a friends bbq and I don’t need to tell you how steamy it got in the broom closet. It didn’t last long, the cute little vegie was appearing in the local green salad at the bbq.

    no one was any wiser to that little hook up.:tup:

    I had random sex with a laptop mouse, but then my life partner 'Dennis' the gerbil got jealous & I had to buy him a guinea pig sex slave from the pet shop. Don’t ask, its some sort of tribal rodent thing going back 32 generations. Back in July 2013, some guinea pigs got hammered on some restricted lettuce and gang banged a hot little gerbil.
    Shits been really weird between them ever since.
    Last I saw, Dennis was struggling to fit a big enough tube into the guinea pig.

    So that’s me, oh hang on. I forgot.

    My beard is gay. Sure he hasn’t come out yet, but Im pretty sure he’s been sneaking out when Ive been asleep & hanging out with stus beard.

    Stu’s beard is gay and is friends with George micheal, and I don’t need to tell you how many toilet doors they’ve seen & kneepads they’ve worn out over the years.

    So my beards been coming home looking like a glazed donut for a while now.
    Maybe I should ask @Stu WTF is going on? or at least a recipe for gloryhole goop remover because this shit is hard to get out.

    Anyhoo, that’s me.
    Oh, also I have a prince albert made out of a jalepeno.

    Any chance we can get a button for all that?
    Last edited: Jan 10, 2015
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  19. CG420

    CG420 Fuck Who You Think I Am

    The Internet
    @DDave Again, nothing wrong with what you/others want, I just meant that maybe a personal introduction would kinda get the message out better but yeah it's your opinions I only suggest the fact that FC staff can't change it manually. The best way to remedy the result of this is to choose none or either. All benefits the community anyways so I wouldn't mind. I do apologize because of my past post. Probably wasn't feeling right at the time or I was drunk (have cut down a lot since.) I guess it would help if further info is needed.
  20. howie105

    howie105 Well-Known Member

    I would not mind if they just pull the whole gender question?
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  21. DDave

    DDave Vape Wizard Accessory Maker

    Judge the Vaper by the Vapor
    @CG420, no worries... was simultaneously inserting a really good "message" I saw in another's posting elsewhere, regarding the topic of classifying one's self as being "something" and how that can initially bring up walls with others. Just inserting a different perspective of looking at the topic.... and including a dash of humor - as is my style... :rockon:

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  22. jdee

    jdee Well-Known Member

    I agree with tuk, this information is not relevant in the context of discussing vaporization, unless your looking for special treatement, in which case I'll take some too.
  23. ichibaneye

    ichibaneye Vapriot, Traveler & Vaporizer/ing lover!

    The Honeycomb Hideout
    If you have the chromosomes of a man you're a man and vice versa. One can't just be something they are not. It's false and actually mentally ill. Now if it's a hermaphrodite which are very very very rare then they can have a choice. Otherwise you are what you are. Those are facts not opinion. This is not progressive it's sand box regressive ridiculousness. This is reality many things are offensive. It's up to the individual to let it ruin your day or life or what ever. Or one can grow up accept reality and move on, over and forward.
  24. Justpassedu

    Justpassedu Well-Known Member

    Longisland , NewYork
    I know this thread is really old but i'd like to chime in and say - Does it really matter what is listed ? This is not a dating site , we are all here for the same thing and common interests. We all share a love for Fucking Combustion. Trust me when i see you post i am not looking to check if you are Male, Female , Transgender or whatever it is you may be. This is Fuckcombustion , not plenty of fish or ok cupid. Love you all though and happy vaping , regardless of what you may be. We are all human .
  25. syrupy

    syrupy Authorized Buyer

    I understand your point. But to suggest that someone who identifies as transgender, etc. is only a matter for dating sites isn't very progressive. That's part of the problem IMO--that gender identity is turned into an issue of just sexuality. If a person is trans, it's not just about what they do in the bedroom. That's a kind of pigeonholing that heterosexual people don't have to deal with, which was why the OP came about. The question is, can someone be allowed to identify outside of binary sexual preference without it being only a SEX thing?
    Last edited: Sep 1, 2016
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