I know I can't be the only one on FC that doesn't plan on ever having kids... where are the rest of you guys and girls at? I frequent a few sites that focus on the CF lifestyle. Talk anything and everything about being CF! Age/sex? How long have you known that you don't kids? Since you were a little kid? Since last week? Any particular reasons as to why you're CF? What kind of hobbies do you all take up, aside from vaping? How easy/hard has it been to find like-minded people or couples to hang out with in your age group? How did your parents react when you "broke the news?" Were they okay with it? Did they cry and tell you they felt like failures? Incessant bothering about grandkids? Favorite/worst things about being CF? Me, I've never wanted kids... I don't remember a time when I looked forward to getting married, having a family, etc. Little kids scare me! So loud and disgusting and bad parenting and all that good shit made me dislike kids (and people) in general. On top of that, if any of you have been following my posts for a while, you'll know that I'm also a chronic pain patient. Unfortunately the disease that I have is inheritable... so even if I did want kids, that fact alone would make me child-free. I can't imagine myself bringing another person into existence and them having to suffer through what I do on a daily basis. My parents took the news pretty well... when I was young, they would tell me that I'd change my mind. It's been over a decade since I first mentioned it and I still haven't changed my mind. They're okay with it at this point, mom will tell me here and there to be safe about the choices I make, and they refer to my puppy as my "kid" ("hey, your kid was looking all over the house for you after you left this morning!"). They understand my reasons for not wanting a kid. Mom likes to ask me the "but what if?" question, I dunno if she understands that getting a girl pregnant isn't really possible when you're single and not sexually active I want to say it's been easy finding friends to hang out with that don't bring their kids along, but it hasn't really. I'm in my early 20's and I need two hands to count how many of my friends/acquaintances are pregnant, have one, or even two kids. The closest friends I hang out the most with are actually a couple, and neither of them want kids right now, so they're careful about doing the dirty (we've talked about this before.) She's on the pill, he uses condoms, etc. The friends I had from high school that have kids now have pretty much been lost to me. Raising a kid is a pretty monumental thing to do properly, so I don't really blame them for prioritizing their flesh and blood over me... but I can't lie, I do miss a few of them. They're just always busy, or hanging out with their mom friends. I feel like an outcast almost, they have kids and that's ALL they talk about. I... uh... have a puppy? Yeah, he's been good... licking his nether regions and doing dog stuff... but, really, I don't care to know about the consistency of your kid's shit. And yeah, I'm sorry you had to wake up at 2 and 3 AM because your kid wouldn't stop crying... but me getting up at the same time to let my dog out to pee just isn't quite the same to you. Outside of vaping, I enjoy low/no-impact activities like watching movies, floating around in the pool, listening to music, video games, going out to eat with my friends last-minute, staying out late into the night and into the next day knowing my responsibilities are limited to my dog, work, and bills. Not having kids as responsibilities is really really liberating. I like having money! What about you? In keeping with the FC rules/spirit, please DO NOT try to start some flame-war about another person's choices! We get it, you hate kids, but don't go overboard with it. Likewise, parents, please don't be condescending about a child-free person, and CF people, don't make fun of the fact that parents have kids. Let's keep it civil!