Valentine's Day Sucks

We've been married for 8 years, but have known each other for much longer. We spent the morning in bed, looking at houses online, then I walked mutt and took the 85 year old neighbor lady for coffee and a muffin. In the end I made brekkie in bed - a warm apricot&hempseed muffin, with lovely soft butter and a chamomille tea. Now I'm on the pooter with you guys while my wife is rattling things downstairs. It's another day. But they are all kinda nice.

But I do have this for some of you all. And I agreed for many years myself, up to and during my first marriage

arf777 said:

My 14th consecutive Valentine's Day alone.

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Start lining up a date NOW to head off the 15th one. :-|

lwien said:

Those recommendations for 2 drinks for men and 1 for women is based on hard liquor. Being that wine has less of an alcohol content than say, scotch, whiskey or vodka, what you stated above makes perfect sense

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Aren't alcoholic drinks proportioned? Meaning one 8 ounce glass of wine equals roughly one 12-16 oz beer which equals roughly one shot of say 80 proof or one basic mixed well drink?

t-dub said:

Aren't alcoholic drinks proportioned? Meaning one 8 ounce glass of wine equals roughly one 12-16 oz beer which equals roughly one shot of say 80 proof or one basic mixed well drink?

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Yup. That's true.

We also can't leave out genetics from this equation. I wonder if the French practice of drinking so much wine over the centuries has helped to change their genetic makeup that allows them to consume more without negative consequences.

A typical glass of wine, pint of beer or a highball/cocktail have the ~same effective amounts of alcohol.

grokit said:

A typical glass of wine, pint of beer or a highball/cocktail have the ~same effective amounts of alcohol.

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I think you are correct. Of course, my wife fills up a large burgundy glass up to the rim with Cabernet and calls it a glass of wine, but it's actually like 3 glasses lol...

I would be lying if I said I enjoy Valentine's Day. I've had Crohn's Disease, along with several other chronic health problems, for many years now. Quite a few people, especially potential romantic partners, are scared of serious illness. They "feel sorry for you," pat you on the head, and run away.

When I was younger, I assumed that the vast majority of couples (95%) were together because they loved each other. I knew there were people who were together for money, convenience, lust, etc., but I always assumed they were a tiny minority. How wrong I was. It isn't a tiny minority at all. So many people are together for reasons other than love, it blows my mind. And those that do love each other take each other for granted most of the time. I want to shake them and say "Do you have any idea how lucky you are? Stop complaining and fighting over stupid shit!"

I've been called eccentric, but I simply can't be with "Mr. Right Now until Mr. Right comes along." I've tried traditional dating in times past, but it just doesn't work for me. I've been in love 4 times in my life. The first was right for me, but taken. The second I loved deeply, but he was wrong for me. The same with the third. Number 4 I love AND he's right for me. But am I right for him? Perhaps it's not too late.

^^ For those that don't know any better, don't do that !!

SSVUN~YAH said:

Good to know, bottoms up!

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Yeah, that stuff is okay, but.... I prefer to go all out:

This is my first solo Valentine's Day in 26 years (MD, FOJ, LD, TG, my BD and X-mas were all firsts as well)

It's been my experience that holidays, both psuedo and real, lately seem to bring out the darkest cynicism in me. At least I can wrap my head around this emotion, which is more than what can be said about the craziness in my life that went along with being with my exes.

For those of you living outside the US we have yet another fake holiday tomorrow. President's Day...where nothing get's done yet you get paid for it if you're a public employee. The grand daddy of them all though is Columbus Day....what a joke.

Did I mention that holidays make me cynical?

basement farmer said:

The grand daddy of them all though is Columbus Day....what a joke.

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Some states have now refused to observe Columbus Day, and I say...............

I'm not sure I buy this, but allegedly drinking a glass of red wine is the equivalent of an hour of exercise. Like I said, not sure I buy it, but I hope it's true.

http://www.bustle.com/articles/4134...-the-same-as-getting-an-hour-of-exercise-says

The only bad news? Not-red wines don’t count (sorry, Chardonnay-lovers), and it only works with one glass — so chugging a bottle a week doesn’t equate to four to six gym sessions.

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Damn!

that would make the olympics much more fun to watch...

lwien said:

Some states have now refused to observe Columbus Day, and I say...............

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Instead of Columbus Day, I observe Crowleymas (Aleister was born on October 12).

lwien said:

Some states have now refused to observe Columbus Day, and I say...............

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I have always thought that there was something inherently wrong with celebrating the invaders who took the opportunity to steal this country from it's indigenous peoples. I've never understood how you "discover" a place where people have already been living for centuries. Slavery and the policy to "resettle", intern and then eliminate the American Indian are our greatest failures. Not in effectiveness, obviously, but in moral turpitude.

"We also can't leave out genetics from this equation."

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One of my best friends used to say that all the time - he was Swedish and considered his Viking heritage a main reason why he was able to consume so much alcohol. It was a bit of a running joke. In fact, he thought he would be less healthy if he tried to cut back.

Died 2 years ago at 52 of liver failure.

High school buddy's brother thought the same thing - being Irish and all.

Died at 34 of liver failure.

So on the genetics thing, maybe not so much.

A buddy has always championed his Scots and Irish heritage as making him a drinking machine - he's not dead, but he's not drinking anything alcoholic now due to the cirrhosis.... fortunately he's still with us, and will hopefully be around for a good long sober while...

My big nod to my own Swedish and Norwegian heritage is to have a wee shot of Aquavit every now and then, purely for the medicinal properties

Solomon said:

One of my best friends used to say that all the time - he was Swedish and considered his Viking heritage a main reason why he was able to consume so much alcohol. It was a bit of a running joke. In fact, he thought he would be less healthy if he tried to cut back.

Died 2 years ago at 52 of liver failure.

High school buddy's brother thought the same thing - being Irish and all.

Died at 34 of liver failure.

So on the genetics thing, maybe not so much.

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On the one hand, my Russian Mongol grandmother was drunk (and chain smoking) her entire 93 year life. Was out dancing the night before she died. And my Romanian gypsy great-grandmother lived to 87 constantly drinking slivovitz and smoking foul little cigars.

On the other hand, neither me nor my siblings drink much at all. I'll have wine or a beer once a month maybe.