Paying it Forward - A New Direction

SSV_Steve_Elev8

Manufacturer
Manufacturer
God Bless all of you.
I am logging in from a friends home (but with one of my computers).
I worked for 10 years... while earning 771 a month... and because our house was paid for we managed well. I was able to support us on that much.
You all knew and loved Patty, my significant other.
I did too, and still do.
Once she was accepted for SSDI, her income became double mine, so we felt really wealthy, but Patty began to drink more, and bring home liquor in abundance.
One night before bed I thought she drank down a 24 ounce glass of water..... that is until she woke me from a nightmare at 4 a.m.She then began to scream at me, and wound up hitting me a number of times.
I looked in cupboard and found 1 inches left in an untouched liter if vodka.
She then lit 2 cigarettes in a row, in spite of the vets warnings, in the house in same room with our dogs.
I took each one and flushed them, reminding her of our promise that she would combust outside.
After this she threw a 2 gallon Pyrex mixing bowl that we used for Dogs water.
She then dialed 911 and said "have me arrested.
I grabbed the phone to intervene, but it was too late.
The police were on their way.
I told "my officer" in seclusion that she did nothing wrong, and it was because of my TBI that I likely said too much and antagonized.
The officers conferred, and my officer told me that I lied... and that my Patty already confessed to hitting me 5 times and throwing the bowl at me.
They arrested my Patty, handcuffs and all.
I went at 6 a.m. and at 8:30 pm I got her released... and that release took until midnight.
She did not want to go home...so she went to a motel.
We talked for 4 days in which she said " I love you" a number of times.
Then she stopped answering and also did not return texts.
I secured an attorney, who conferred with an attorney that Patty hired.
next day when I returned home from Doctor's office... the sheriff was waiting for me with an order of protection.
I was to leave immediately and could only return once for 15 minutes with a police escort to gather my possessions,,,, 13 years worth of possessions!
I left with one computer and 4 pairs of underwear, and socks.
Sadly, I had a friend follow me so he could safeguard my vaporizers and meds.
WHY this explanation?
Because I have not helped the community for 4 weeks.
All vaporizers in a friends basement, and Vitolo in a car.
I go to friends home daily to check emails, but your friend Vitolo the Vaporist is at this time homeless.
No place will rent to a guy with $771 a month income.
I was privy to a "pocket dial", in which I heard her only friend encouraging her to destroy this picture and that... "reminders of him will just make you weak" she said.
She said that she wished that in her brutal marriage she had someone to guide her the way she was now guiding Patty.
I could listen no more, and I hung up.
I will post a note here when I have a place to live, so that I can once again accept donations of parts and vaporizers for the community of terminally ill low income patients.
At this time, it is all I can do to traverse the many miles to the post office, so I am temporarily useless to everyone including myself.
I spill my guts here for lack of people I trust.
I have trust issues, and childhood abandonment issues that make me solitary at the time.
I do not believe that e can find our way back together from this darkness.
I am still in love, and still wear my wedding band.
I retrieved hers from the trash, and I keep it on my keychain.
Please know that I am not giving up my promise to the Universe.
I will soon get settled, and resume were I left off, whether alone, or with partner.
I for now seek a place to live (hopefully a 1 bedroom and not a studio), to store 13 years worth of memories, clothing, and vaporizers.
This is my explanation to all who follow my posts.....
That I am neither dead nor insane.
I will once soon let self be healed, and will let you all know when I can accept vaporizers again.
My first priority will be to find a place for myself and dog, and then to remake my life
THEN, I will collect used/unwanted vapes again for the community
Wow that's bunch of sharing Vito!
Do you blame me?... I've been holding it in for 2 weeks!
Thanks for reading... and I will be back!
I left my computer on 24/7 at a friends place 30 miles from tucson, so when I once again am back here near computer, I will know what has been going on!
Too much drama, and disappointment.
I still love my Patty, but this was a very intense disappointment, for me to adapt to.
I will hurry to heal, so I can resume by debt payment to the Universe.
If I can help in any way let me know. We are always looking for sales help.
 

HealthyRips.com

Healthy Rips Team
Company Rep
God Bless all of you.
I am logging in from a friends home (but with one of my computers).
I worked for 10 years... while earning 771 a month... and because our house was paid for we managed well. I was able to support us on that much.
You all knew and loved Patty, my significant other.
I did too, and still do.
Once she was accepted for SSDI, her income became double mine, so we felt really wealthy, but Patty began to drink more, and bring home liquor in abundance.
One night before bed I thought she drank down a 24 ounce glass of water..... that is until she woke me from a nightmare at 4 a.m.She then began to scream at me, and wound up hitting me a number of times.
I looked in cupboard and found 1 inches left in an untouched liter if vodka.
She then lit 2 cigarettes in a row, in spite of the vets warnings, in the house in same room with our dogs.
I took each one and flushed them, reminding her of our promise that she would combust outside.
After this she threw a 2 gallon Pyrex mixing bowl that we used for Dogs water.
She then dialed 911 and said "have me arrested.
I grabbed the phone to intervene, but it was too late.
The police were on their way.
I told "my officer" in seclusion that she did nothing wrong, and it was because of my TBI that I likely said too much and antagonized.
The officers conferred, and my officer told me that I lied... and that my Patty already confessed to hitting me 5 times and throwing the bowl at me.
They arrested my Patty, handcuffs and all.
I went at 6 a.m. and at 8:30 pm I got her released... and that release took until midnight.
She did not want to go home...so she went to a motel.
We talked for 4 days in which she said " I love you" a number of times.
Then she stopped answering and also did not return texts.
I secured an attorney, who conferred with an attorney that Patty hired.
next day when I returned home from Doctor's office... the sheriff was waiting for me with an order of protection.
I was to leave immediately and could only return once for 15 minutes with a police escort to gather my possessions,,,, 13 years worth of possessions!
I left with one computer and 4 pairs of underwear, and socks.
Sadly, I had a friend follow me so he could safeguard my vaporizers and meds.
WHY this explanation?
Because I have not helped the community for 4 weeks.
All vaporizers in a friends basement, and Vitolo in a car.
I go to friends home daily to check emails, but your friend Vitolo the Vaporist is at this time homeless.
No place will rent to a guy with $771 a month income.
I was privy to a "pocket dial", in which I heard her only friend encouraging her to destroy this picture and that... "reminders of him will just make you weak" she said.
She said that she wished that in her brutal marriage she had someone to guide her the way she was now guiding Patty.
I could listen no more, and I hung up.
I will post a note here when I have a place to live, so that I can once again accept donations of parts and vaporizers for the community of terminally ill low income patients.
At this time, it is all I can do to traverse the many miles to the post office, so I am temporarily useless to everyone including myself.
I spill my guts here for lack of people I trust.
I have trust issues, and childhood abandonment issues that make me solitary at the time.
I do not believe that e can find our way back together from this darkness.
I am still in love, and still wear my wedding band.
I retrieved hers from the trash, and I keep it on my keychain.
Please know that I am not giving up my promise to the Universe.
I will soon get settled, and resume were I left off, whether alone, or with partner.
I for now seek a place to live (hopefully a 1 bedroom and not a studio), to store 13 years worth of memories, clothing, and vaporizers.
This is my explanation to all who follow my posts.....
That I am neither dead nor insane.
I will once soon let self be healed, and will let you all know when I can accept vaporizers again.
My first priority will be to find a place for myself and dog, and then to remake my life
THEN, I will collect used/unwanted vapes again for the community
Wow that's bunch of sharing Vito!
Do you blame me?... I've been holding it in for 2 weeks!
Thanks for reading... and I will be back!
I left my computer on 24/7 at a friends place 30 miles from tucson, so when I once again am back here near computer, I will know what has been going on!
Too much drama, and disappointment.
I still love my Patty, but this was a very intense disappointment, for me to adapt to.
I will hurry to heal, so I can resume by debt payment to the Universe.

Hi Vitolo,
We are so sorry to hear about everything you have gone through the past few days. You have been so helpful and inspirational to everyone around you. Extremely upsetting to hear about you and Patty - we sincerely hope that things work out for the best. Please let us know the best way we can help you get back on your feet - please PM us. Keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.

Healthy Rips Team
 

ChooChooCharlie

Well-Known Member
Please send a cash gift via PayPal to Vito

pvdelv@gmail.com

This goes directly to Vito's account. He called me after I donated that way, so it works

To encourage FC readers to give, even 5 or 10, I will match any donation this week

Told Vito it's an offer he can't refuse. He will let me know the amount, you folks don't need to say who you are

He is far too proud to ask for money himself

@SSV_Steve_Elev8 - Cool idea, like maybe a "Vitolo" referral code deal. Couple years ago I enjoyed some draws on Vito's SSV with his short glass. He said he uses it everyday

@HealthyRips.com - you folks stepped it up with your matching Fury II gifts!
 

Vitolo

Vaporist
If I can help in any way let me know. We are always looking for sales help.
Thanks, but I am tied to the state.... am on SSI (low pay) but I have serious medical difficulties, and I could never afford the hospital and medical expenses.
Thank you, and God Bless you for thinking of me.
Hi Vitolo,
We are so sorry to hear about everything you have gone through the past few days. You have been so helpful and inspirational to everyone around you. Extremely upsetting to hear about you and Patty - we sincerely hope that things work out for the best. Please let us know the best way we can help you get back on your feet - please PM us. Keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.
Thank you for keeping me in your thoughts... the Universe does work that way.
Much Love to you all!
@Vitolo very sorry to hear of this, a level of reality no one should have to deal with. Hoping you see light at the end of the tunnel.
I know the light is out there... I am seeking it actively now.
Please send a cash gift via PayPal to Vito
pvdelv@gmail.com
This goes directly to Vito's account. He called me after I donated that way, so it works
To encourage FC readers to give, even 5 or 10, I will match any donation this week
Told Vito it's an offer he can't refuse. He will let me know the amount, you folks don't need to say who you are
He is far too proud to ask for money himself
@SSV_Steve_Elev8 - Cool idea, like maybe a "Vitolo" referral code deal. Couple years ago I enjoyed some draws on Vito's SSV with his short glass. He said he uses it everyday
@HealthyRips.com - you folks stepped it up with your matching Fury II gifts!
You have always been a great friend @ChooChooCharlie
Thanks for what you are doing!
 
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Vitolo

Vaporist
I can't thank all of you enough.
You all have set me on the path for a deposit on a new place to live... and have helped me start to save toward a new vehicle (they are 'totaling" mine... but the value brings me closer to a new car... which with all of your help- the difference will not be as devastating.
My sweet Patty is being hard on me, as I must only talk to her through my attorney.... and she has turned the title over to Geico. Luckily for me they have a recording of her saying that I paid for the car, and have assured me they will help me with that information.
I may have found a place to live that I can afford.
With you guys was wind beneath my wings, I think I can look toward this as a new chapter.
Advice to all ..... drink as much as you can handle, but do not let alcohol become a demon in your life.
Watching it change my gal was very hard for me to witness.
 
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grokit

well-worn member
:bang:
I'm very sorry to hear about this.

I hope patty finds her way off of the road she's on, her demons really grabbed her by the throat. I'm glad you're safe @Vitolo. I have a spare room but I'm a long way from Arizona. I wonder if you would consider downsizing to a room rather than your own place, as it may take some financial pressure off of you.

I've also been collecting a bunch of vapes and parts for when you get up and running again.

:peace:
 

Vitolo

Vaporist
:bang:
I'm very sorry to hear about this.

I hope patty finds her way off of the road she's on, her demons really grabbed her by the throat. I'm glad you're safe @Vitolo. I have a spare room but I'm a long way from Arizona. I wonder if you would consider downsizing to a room rather than your own place, as it may take some financial pressure off of you.

I've also been collecting a bunch of vapes and parts for when you get up and running again.

:peace:
God Bless you, you unselfish son of a gun.Not quite ready to be away from my M.D., Neurologist, and lab... not to mention my pharmacy.
Not in such good shape to leave home at this time.
I did put a deposit on a one bedroom/1 living room/kitchenette.
Small but there is a small yard for my dog.
Please permit me to say I have much love for you!
Thanks for the comments.
 
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Vitolo

Vaporist
With the help of members here, I am slowly moving into a new place.
I left a house with 11 rooms.
My new place has 2 rooms, but it will do..better than being homeless.
I have a front door that opens into a living room/kitchen.
A door in the center of that leads into a bedroom, which has a back door out into a yard...the same size as the bedroom,but it has a dandy fence, with a gate that locks.
The bathroom has a standup shower, and next to the bathroom is the bedroom closet.
It is a good sized closet... equaling size to the bathroom,which means I can stick a shelf in it for my vape stuff.
I was lucky to find it.
I saw a sign, and called on a hunch.
It is owned by the dentist that made my partials 15 years ago.
He devotes thursdays to St.Elizabeths of Hungary Dental clinic... a place where low income folks get discounted dental services.
I went back 3 months ago to have my partials adjusted,and they are like new.
Rent is only $450 a month... leaving me room to pay utilities.
Life has a way of giving one what they need to survive.
I want to thank all of you for the help you have given.
I won't list you each here,as that may be too personal for some, but I have written to each you expressing my affection and gratitude.
I am pooped from cleaning the place today, so I will go rest.
God Bless all of you, and ......
Vape Often, and Vape Well!
 
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arthritisbites

Well-Known Member
@arthritisbites , thanks! But I’m usually more liquid and vapor than solid

Judging by your fc name, you’re going through pain and you get some relief from vaping

So you understand what people endure, and support Vito’s efforts to ease it. Nothing better than reducing pain

That was funny!

Yes, Sadly, pain and I are old friends. But vaping quite literally saved my life, and not only that, it gave me a quality-of-life back that I truly thought was long-lost. My children actually have a mother who is present because of vaping (physically and mentally).

I know how much Vito’s work means to people because I know how much it would mean to me if I were in their shoes. Life is hard enough without being Eaten alive by pain.

Thanks to you again and to Vito for decreasing the amount of pain in this world!
 

deadlytoaster

Canadian lost in Europe
I just read this thread only now but am I ever so glad things are slowly coming together for you Vito! You seem to be an upstanding person who does not much but give all you can to others. You have great virtues and I hope life works in your favor as well!
 

Vitolo

Vaporist
Hey @Vitolo just checking in on you, hope you’re doing well! I have things to send you if and when you’re ready :)
Thanks for being patient with me.
It has been difficult for me to function normally.
Patty has been by my side for 13 years, and I find myself somewhat lost.
I have not spoken with many people besides my therapist and Doctor since this happened on May 19th.
It looks like this is a permanent situation.
Sorry I have not been posting to threads as I usually do.
I do have a patient list that I should begin on which could get my heart back into the game of life.
I have been afraid that I might do something sappy like start crying.
I just need a little time to come to grips with my new reality.
 

YaMon

Vaping since 2010
Thanks for being patient with me.
It has been difficult for me to function normally.
Patty has been by my side for 13 years, and I find myself somewhat lost.
I have not spoken with many people besides my therapist and Doctor since this happened on May 19th.
It looks like this is a permanent situation.
Sorry I have not been posting to threads as I usually do.
I do have a patient list that I should begin on which could get my heart back into the game of life.
I have been afraid that I might do something sappy like start crying.
I just need a little time to come to grips with my new reality.
Just know spending time with others including those who need your help is your way forward to many things including happiness.
 

Vitolo

Vaporist
Today is the day.
I go see 4 patients (not at once) and each will be getting a portable.
First Man, a spinal arthritis patient will be getting a new Vapir Prima. He liked it's style in the adds and read up on it a bit, and he also does a small amount of concentrates when available to him... so I thought it a good dual purpose unit.
(we all know any unit is good for both, using de-gummed hemp or my personal favorite, cotton)
The next three are all ladies...
All Cancer survivors...
All flower lovers.
Two of these gals will be getting Vivant's "Alternate".
Both used (by me!), but with new tops and new batteries. (and an older "Haze" dual battery charger.
This is a convenient placement as they live together.
The final unit will go to a younger patient, in her early 20's.
She will get the original "Air XS". While it has the original style quirky top with double screens, she has the best manual dexterity, and will master this unit with ease.
Getting out there, and into the community.
My place is too small for them to visit here, as Dusty the Shepherd has little tolerance for strangers at this time.
Dusty waiting for next victim
 
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